Hi @BEN,
Perhaps you can see that your wife is more than BPD? I agree with NikNik, it's sad that some of the stuff that you have read on the internet says to get out now. People with BPD (and other mental illnesses included) can have happy healthy lives, and happy relationships.
It's great to hear that you feel like you can cope, and it sounds like you feel about it confident too. I think this is positive, and hope you can share with us more about how you work through tough times with your wife. Do you have them often? How long have you been together?
Also @Childlike, great questions, though I just need to flag that in the Community Guidelines we ask members to no discuss specifics (e.g., names of meds, dosages etc) about medication. It's ok to talk in general terms though. The reason for this is to avoid post being perceived as medical advice.
CherryBomb