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[NatureLover]

Thanks, @Dimity .

That's really good that your second session with the psychologist was better than the first. I hope the homework helps 🤞

But the specialist - does that mean that your surgery is now not in October? 

Sounds like you had a huge day yesterday with 2 appts. 

The coin idea is good. 

My work day went well thanks and I've finally caught up on my work. Today I have the ophthalmologist for a regular diabetes check up. I'm sensitive about my eyes and he can't do all of the tests.

Good luck with your housework today... 

[scruffypuffball]

@Lostsoul30 @NatureLover @Dimity @tyme @Eve7 @Shaz51 

I was at the shops and an old lady coughed and I moved away.  Its just an instinctive thing i do... to everyone.  Actually lots of people do it to me. She then started yelling at me unhinged:

Lady: "SHe MoVed awAY frOM Me BeCAUse I couGHed"

I tested her so I said as I was paying, "I work in a nursing home, if I catch it, I could unalive people" (Appealing to her conscience)

She yelled : "I HAd 4 inJECtions, MY SON had IT 4 TiMEs" (she doubled down, getting defensive)

I said calmly: "that's not good,  you should be masking"

I paid then she ranted to the check out lady "THIS IS STUPID, this is stupid yak yak yak"

I said calmly as I walked out: "Youre stupid"

Sometimes when people see me in my mask they freak out and move away.  I get offended too because our frontal lobes are designed to connect with other people and be accepted.  But I can regulate myself afterwards and say "hey actually, they were being cautious, that is a good thing" and I get on with it.  You are basically fighting your own instinctive wiring.

narcissists cannot regulate disappointment or rejection, so they escalate, like that lady did.  The virus exploits our sociability.  If we dont reckon with this, we will never defeat it. 

@Lostsoul30I totally understand your need to protect yourself.  I am exactly like that.  I think my germophobia helps me too.  it gave me the life skills I need to keep me safe.  There is a whole covid conscious community out there doing the same thing.  Dont feel bad about it.  You are only looking after your health.  I really missed this group.  You are all such conscientious people, diligently testing and being careful.  Some people to not do that or even punish you for doing the right thing.  we dont live in denial.  If you cant catch it you cant spread it.  Think of how many people you are potentially saving.  thank you for all you do. 

[Dimity]

I trust your eye check-up was satisfactory @NatureLover . It's important. Do you monitor your blood glucose closely?

No the surgery won't be October. Perhaps February now. I have mixed feelings about the postponement but maybe things have improved a bit so it's not as urgent.

I put a lot of effort into housework today but still need to catch up.  

[Dimity]

It sounds as though you're protecting your clients as much as yourself @scruffypuffball . Thankyou for caring.

[Eve7]

Good morning @NatureLover ,

Dropping by with some love for you and hoping today goes well, How was your eye test?

💚💚💚💚💚

[NatureLover]

Thank you, lovely @Dimity @Eve7 @Snowie ❤

I spent 2 days back on track and now seem to have gone off the rails again. 

I hope you are all OK 🤞

[Dimity]

Sorry to.hear things aren't quite right @NatureLover . Has anything in particular gone wrong?

[Dimity]

Sending best wishes @NatureLover 

[NatureLover]

Hi @Dimity , thanks for your messages and for being a faithful friend. ❤ I appreciate you.

I'm sorry I haven't been there for you recently. How are you doing? 

How often are your psychologist appts? Have you had a third one? 

I had an iron infusion today for the first time. It went OK and I feel OK so far. There can be some scary side effects apparently. 

I'm still living a not-good lifestyle...hoping to get back on track again tomorrow. 

Sending good wishes...

[Dimity]

Hello @NatureLover I hope you feel much better after your iron infusion. I had a friend who needed B12, she was very poorly. 

I'm muddling on, not very successfully.  I'm due to see the psychologist this week then would like to pause for a break. 

Hopefully you'll feel much brighter and more energetic very soon.