Hi @SallyBowles,
Welcome to the Forums. My name is FloatingFeather and I am one of the peer support workers at SANE. It is nice to have you with us.
It sounds like both you and your son have gone through a lot over the years. My heart goes out to you as I am a carer for a close family member that has a serious mental health diagnosis (diagnosed around 20 years ago). It can be a rollercoaster ride being a carer, it can also be a thankless task in some ways. I think until someone has gone through something like this a person can't really understand how hard, scary and lonely it can feel. It sounds like you have done a lot to help your son. What being a carer has taught be is that at the end of the day everyone is ultimately responsible for their choices. As much as we may want to protect, care, support, change the person we love none of this is doable unless the person want to change / seek help.
I would encourage you to reach out for support for yourself. Whilst carers are typically giving people they sometimes neglect to look out for themselves and recognise that they too need support. There are three organisations I will list here that you may want to contact for some support / advice:
- Carer Gateway
- Carers Australia
- Mental Health Carers Australia
I agree with your belief that your son should seek professional health for what he is going through. There is a lot of hope and treatment options for people struggling with mental health issues and a lot of support available. Whilst I understand that your son may choose not to seek this help I would really encourage you to seek help for yourself in all this.
Warm wishes,
FloatingFeather