Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

[BlueBay]

My mum is a bloody controlling manipulative person. 
she's not a mum 

She causes issues for me - I don't know why 

rejected abandoned - this hurts so much 

[Lostandlifeless]

Bad day. Dont know why. Anxiety keeps trying to creep up on me. I've been trying calming techniques, talking, distraction, happy thoughts and now I'm here trying another resource.

It saddens me that im always so confused about not only every other person in the world but also myself.

I have no idea who I am or what I am supposed to be doing; all I know is that im scared and sad all the time even if I avoid everything and everyone.

So confused.

[PrincessLettuce]

Hi @Lostandlifeless ,

Sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time at the moment. Even though it's quite tough for you at the moment, its really great that you're still engaging in different self-care strategies. 

Please reach out again if you need extra support,

-HelpfulBee

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Re: Being a Subcontractor (Cleaner) - Possible Offer...

After 1 & 1/2 week - They say they could not contact my Referees.

So they've Stalled my Application (No Offer)!

They sent me Abrupt (Rude) messages - Demanding (today) that I find them New (Other) Referees.

I'm Stumped, this has never happened before....

This Cleaning Agency (possible offer) does not have private house cleaners as employees (no staff) – They are private “Sub-Contractors” (sort of).

If they give me an offer, they would “Refer clients to me” – I would not be employed by them.

I would only get paid $25 per hour (Gross) – The Agency gets $10.50 per hour (on top of that).

I would have to pay my own Tax (somehow).

No Superannuation contributions would be paid for me (by the Agency).

Superannuation is supposed to be paid “On Top of (in addition) to hourly rates” – I’ve never heard of this situation before.

That would mean paying my own Super Contributions out of the measly $20 per hour – That is left, after paying my own Tax.

I don’t see how this is possible.

It seems very tricky & complicated.

The Reference Checks have stalled - So no offer..

I'm confused, I have no idea what to do now....

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[Adge]

Re: Being a Subcontractor (Cleaner) - Possible Offer...

After 1 & 1/2 week - They say they could not contact my Referees.

So they've Stalled my Application (No Offer)!

They sent me Abrupt (Rude) messages - Demanding (today) that I find them New (Other) Referees.

I'm Stumped, this has never happened before....

This Cleaning Agency (possible offer) does not have private house cleaners as employees (no staff) – They are private “Sub-Contractors” (sort of).

If they give me an offer, they would “Refer clients to me” – I would not be employed by them.

I would only get paid $25 per hour (Gross) – The Agency gets $10.50 per hour (on top of that).

I would have to pay my own Tax (somehow).

No Superannuation contributions would be paid for me (by the Agency).

Superannuation is supposed to be paid “On Top of (in addition) to hourly rates” – I’ve never heard of this situation before.

That would mean paying my own Super Contributions out of the measly $20 per hour – That is left, after paying my own Tax.

I don’t see how this is possible.

It seems very tricky & complicated.

The Reference Checks have stalled - So no offer..

I'm confused, I have no idea what to do now....

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[Former-Member]

WARNING CONTENT MY BE TRIGGERING 

One of the worse phone calls a mother can receive just happened. My beautiful son, with the most loving kind heart has just been taken to a mental health unit, his father called to let me know. He is 21 and heartbroken, he said he had found the love of his life. They where together for two years but had feelings for each other in high school just to shy to say anything either one of them. We she broke up with him just before Christmas. I knew he was in a bad way but not this bad, he had tried to commit suicide this will be his third attempt, he even had a back up plan of this time didn't work, apparently there is a online event later this month that he was planning to join.  

I am sitting in my safe corner feeling like I should have known, that I should have forced my way into my ex's house on Boxing Day when my son didn't text to say thank for his gifts. That just wasn't him he always texted or called. 

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member ,
Oh my, I can't imagine what it like to receive that kind of call and fear and anxiousness it can fire up  in yourself. It sounds like your son in getting some professional support and hopefully he will be safe and cared for. I appreciate you reaching out to the other forum members for support and hope you can find some comfort within the forums. Sounds like you really know your son well but please be gentle on yourself as it sounds like you did all you could.

Please take care and reach out if needed.

Take care,

Radius

[BlueBay]

Oh @Former-Member 

I'm so sorry to read your post about your son. I hope he'll be ok. He is in the right place and he'll professional support. 
I can't imagine the thoughts gojng through your head. Pls don't be too hard on yourself. Easy to say I know. 
will you be able to see him? 
I'm sending you lots of hugs and strength 

pls look after yourself too 

Thinking of you ❤️🤗🙏

[BlueBay]

I hate my job 

I want to scream sbd cry 

People there are horrible 

[BlueBay]

hours cut at work less than before

how the hell am i meant to survive

i'm stressing so much i want to cry a lot

professionals don't understand

"oh just stay positive;

oh yoiu'll get exgtra hours"

how the hell do they know. i've been given my shifts for the year - two days/4 hour shifts maybe 3 if they feel like cutting it back even further

i just don't get it anymore

this is the worst job enviroment i have ever worked in  😞  😞

[Former-Member]

@BlueBay  I'm really sorry to hear that's happened. I know how stressful income insecurity can be - sending lots of support your way