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03 Jan 2017 02:02 AM
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03 Jan 2017 02:27 AM
03 Jan 2017 02:27 AM
Thanks @Former-Member xox
03 Jan 2017 03:07 AM
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03 Jan 2017 03:49 AM
03 Jan 2017 03:49 AM
Returning home mid-Feb @Former-Member. Hope you're feeling better soon, and I am so glad you are enjoying working at the zoo.
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03 Jan 2017 04:02 AM
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03 Jan 2017 08:29 AM
03 Jan 2017 08:29 AM
Hi @TAB .... sorry it has taken me a whike to get back and respond to this ....
You have said your dad suffers PTSDfrom war service .... there is war damage in WH's parents generation across the family, and you can see the fall-out in our generation, and even in some of our kid's generation within the family. It's sad, but I guess the challenge is to provide our kids with grounded teaching and emotional processing skills to try to filter out the damage progressively.
There's lot of really strong values there too though ... they're not afraid of hard work, and are passionate and very emotionally expressive about some things .... bit of a crazy mix..
03 Jan 2017 09:22 AM
03 Jan 2017 09:22 AM
that's fine @Faith-and-Hope er dunno guess having same nightmares for 40 years is PTSD.. sister and her hubby have received last versions of war stories and they do sound coherent and more in depth than older versions, I must have been getting the Readers Digest condensed version, well that was 20 plus years ago
03 Jan 2017 01:22 PM
03 Jan 2017 01:22 PM
Hello @PeppiPatty,hope it is a bit cooler for your weeding next week xx
Hello @Faith-and-Hope,it would be lovely if more towns had flowere everywhere
Hello @Former-Member, @Former-Member xx
Thank you @Former-Member, seems like the magnesium is working , been drinking more water, my leg went numb last night
having a hicup with hubby this week
03 Jan 2017 04:47 PM
03 Jan 2017 04:47 PM
Getting a bit "fuzzed out" with age, is he ?
It helped me with my MIL to understand her back-story ..... experienced war and loss of family members including father, favourite uncle, grandmother died of "broken heart syndrome", lost two siblings in their infancy to childhood illness, left destitute after the war, her mother favouring the boys .... girls were non-entity slaves to the household .... very embittering life situation ....
My compassion was to the fore until I realised her coping mechanism was to control, and spite others' successes .... so had to come to terms with prioritising my own self-compassion and blocking her influence .... so arose my very deliberate "social mask" ..... being polite, but nothing more, and very politely excusing myself at every opportunity to decline offers, leave the venue, not wear or use spiteful or inappropriate gifts, etc .....
The only way for anyone else to exist with my armour was to remain polite too .... which created a new order of things. I let behind my armour people who respected and appreciated me. All others were blocked, firmly and politely. It showed me that I didn't have to be reactive to their cr#p .... just step over or around it and move on on my own terms.
Y'doin' it @TAB .... 😄 .... high five 🖐🏼❣
03 Jan 2017 04:53 PM
03 Jan 2017 04:53 PM
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