Hot Chocolate Anyone ?

[Anony18]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope - just popping in. Already anxious from waking up. This is my mini breather before I have to carry on. I hear the rain pouring outside! 

@PeppiPatty - A great big HELLO to you!

I was glad i was able to give him that advice. It is the rare opportunities I get to as he is not a very open person. As he responded to me the Sunday prior - no one knows about how depressed he really is other than his psych and me (whether it is cause I just ask the right questions or he opens up to me without realising). He is a bit of a funny one. He starts talking to me and says he doesn't want to think or talk about it but tends to carry on. But it is good that I know the chaos with his home life and hope I can try to be some form of positivity and stress relief in time. Let's hope he takes my advice. When it comes to family it can be a bit hard at first to separate yourself from them and think about your own needs. 

I like to watch movies and I do dance as well. Tennis season will be starting as well soon. I decided to get back into it. Got a concert in a few weeks so lots of prep! Your painting is amazing. I wish I was that artistic. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hiya @Anony18 @PeppiPatty ..... fellow westernites .... 😊

[Anony18]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope

How has your day been?

Just about to go sleep. So tired and feeling under the weather 😑🤒 Earliest been to bed in a while. Key is now to stay asleep! Happy note its FRIDAY tomorrow 😊

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Anony18

I get truly surprised by the advise I get from these Sane Forums.....no matter what time, what day....I remind myself that the most important person in this situation ......is yourself and again. @Anony18 you remind me of this. 

I am 48 years old. I have made many many mistakes but have no regrets.

For 2 years, my Mother in LAw spead around my community that I put my husband in jail for something I didnt  and I just learnt .........to take care of myself. I had actually spent every day on the phone to the hospital begging them to put him in for a couple of weeks but as I didnt have the MI, they ignored me and look what happened. 

I had actually left my husband for 18 months........his behaviour was not good for me and he came back after the 2 years and had changed. We then discussed things for a year and with support from Sane Forums and his Psych team, we decided to get back together.

All that ime, I took care of myself and it's worked out. My Mother in LAw was naturally put in her place and life went on. I imagine what I would do if I didnt take care of myself.............

Sometimes @Anony18.......it feels like this huge step forward and a step back. I cant go to the funeral of someone I work for, he was 106 years old and it's going to break my heart not to be there.

I can't go to church on Sunday because it's too far away ......my church are going to a place some way ago for Church camp and my husband needs me near. My son is getting headaches and I need to be close by. 

I work as a cleaner which I really enjoy but get possibly 30c per week in pay and it's exhausting but I need the excersise. To All my high school friends who own houses and regularly meet for nice meals in cafes planning our 50 year old renunion..............G'day, how are you ??

Movies are cool aren't they ? I am hanging out to get my hands on the Viking series !!

I truly like my little life. I regularly get a little jealous of others and need to sit down and remind myself of my own boring little life. When you gave me a compliment on my pic.....I felt special, thanks. 

Please take care of yourself. Do you feel that this person needs to take you a little more into his life? Am I wrong ?

PeppiPAtty :0) 

[PeppiPatty]

Hey you two, 

Did you watch Ramsay's kitchen on Wednesday night? I love that show

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[Faith-and-Hope]

@PeppiPatty

I didn't see Ramsey's Kitchen, but I think I have watched it before.

Gnight @Anony18.   My hubby has just come in from the airport .... I am tired and headed for bed ....

I did hear today that the school,will speak to TAFE and see if they can bring D3's re-sit if her assessment forward .... faithing and hoping .....

🌷💜

[Anony18]

@PeppiPatty - No I didn't watch Ramsay Kitchen. I hardly watch TV to be honest as I am constantly out of the house doing activities and when I am home I normally watch Netflix or stream movies. Am really into Hallmark movies. Predictable ending where they get together but it is a light hearted movie.

I am glad that I reminded you that you are the most important person in this situation. It is tough sometimes cause I have this tendency to put other people's wellbeing before my own. It isn't always wrong but the important thing that the forums remind me is that in order for me to support my partner or anyone with MI is firstly that I have to be mentally strong. In order for my mental health to remain like that - I have to ensure I do things for myself as well. So it is something that hopefully in time my partner himself will realise when it comes to his family and the feeling that everyone controls his life. 

That is horrible to hear what your MIL did but end of day it sounds like a good outcome has arised after these years. It must be tough not to be able to head out at times but hopefully you have some comfort knowing that we are all here on this forum to listen  

As for your picture - well you are a special individual with amazing talents! I do look forward to seeing what others you end up painting. I always go to an art gallery and the paintings look so simple to do but the reality is that it isn't. Knowing the right colours and brush strokes is an art. Also seeing a sunset and painting it for example - 2 people will look at it but can paint it differently cause of how they see the sunset or the environment around it. It is really amazing. Unfortunately I am not artistic so my visions or outlooks are always within my brain.

Well - my partner currently is a bit of a tricky one and as currently it is a step by step to see where we head. As i mentioned in my previous posts - other than his psych, I appear to be the only one to know how seriously depressed he seems. Assume I am the only one who knows about what really happens at home. Whether he realises it or not - he appears to be opening up and sharing with me. He is a creature of solitude as he calls it. And his mates just ask how his bro (who has MI) and he says not good and that is end of conversation. This whole thing is a new experience for me so these forums have helped. Patience is definitely tough when you know you can do so much more or be there for them so much more however you can only be there when they allow you to. And it is a matter of trust - particularly with his case where his exes have all cheated on him. 

[Anony18]

@Faith-and-Hope - have my fingers and toes crossed and my prayers that D3 is able to re-sit her assessment! Lots of positive vibes are being thrown in that direction!

I am losing my voice but yet am at work. Lots of deadlines sadly but my body is not in the mood to work!

[Former-Member]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope, @annoy18, @PeppiPatty, @Shaz51, looking for yas, hope you ok. Absolutely glorious day here today. Great radio songs. Puppy at my feet. Just stopping for English B'fast - made a pot if you want some. ♨.
🌞🐶🐦🌿💜🌷📻

[Anony18]

Hi @Former-Member - I am ok. Sick at the moment and am at work trying not to spread the germs as much as I can. Cough and mostly a really hoarse voice. I would love a tea....what tea would be good for someone who has a sore throat and a slight cough? Peppermint? Chamomile?