Thankyou @Shaz51. Can these still apply to me? I won't be a carer for much longer as my MI husband wants to heal without me. It hurts that he doesn't want me as part of his healing process, he's already chosen someone else who didn't go through those hard times but "makes him happy". I guess this says to me I'm not really deserving of happiness. There's no success for me, I'm already a failure.